Have you read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle? If not, it's well worth the time and effort it takes to really understand it. It took me oh ... 4 months to get through, a few pages a day then a digestion period. I highlighted the entire work practically.
Tonight my Mom heard Eckhart Tolle on the radio asking this simple but life changing question: "Are you a peaceful presence in the relationships you have?" My mom said it really stuck a chord with her. She's been married for about 37 years and she was explaining how after a time ... you can begin to forget to keep things as peaceful as they can be. Conflict becomes the norm, not the exception, however minor the conflict may be. My parents get along very well compared to many couples, but still, I could tell she felt there could be more peace if they were both more conscious of being a peaceful presence in the marriage.
At the end of my relationship with Derrek, I was anything but a peaceful presence. I let my own feelings of being unfulfilled bleed through to our relationship and soil it. Now that we're broken up, we actually have a more peaceful relationship. So ask yourself this question and answer it honestly. "Am I a peaceful presence, more often than not, in my relationships?" This means in love, friendship, family, and work. Do you cause unnecessary drama and unrest? If so, why? Let's try to be the most peaceful beings we can be this week in all our relationships. It's Monday ... begin now. Tell me as the week goes by ... how are you being a more peaceful presence and do you notice a change?
With Gratitude for an awakening consciousness ~L~
4 comments:
That's kinda funny , My last relationship ended because ( in her words ) I never make her own up to how much she uses me and how poorly she treats me. I must admit I thought I would hear another human tell me that we have to break ties because I treat them to good.
I always seen it as how could I not forgive her when she showed that her actions upset her . And how could I not do all that I could for someone that I love.
She seen it as I was stopping her from learning from her own actions and stifling her growth.
We were both right.
Being peaceful may not always be the healthiest thing for a relationship. The most important thing , I have found ,is that all feelings and labor should be equal. One person shouldn't carry the relationship on their own. This is sometimes difficult , I felt that they way she inspired me and the growth that I received , made me the one who was in debt.
In the end I guess there must be a yen to the yang.
Flight is so right - there must be a yen to the yang - it seems easier to look back and talk about why the relationship ended than it is to stay in the relationship and communicate your needs - love actually can grow when people part because the need to control is absent - like when your kids leave home..............
our conflict is usually about who is right - sounds pretty silly on paper - I blame it on our birthdates - but at 63 I am working on it - that's all we can do
I really needed to read this today my friend,
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us,
Much love and deepest peace,
M
Thanks for reading friends :) Your thoughts mean so much so much ... ~L~
And Maithri, I can't help but be sure you are a peaceful presence in so many lives, in Africa and beyond.
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