Sunday, October 11, 2009
How Peaceful Are You?
Have you read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle? If not, it's well worth the time and effort it takes to really understand it. It took me oh ... 4 months to get through, a few pages a day then a digestion period. I highlighted the entire work practically.
Tonight my Mom heard Eckhart Tolle on the radio asking this simple but life changing question: "Are you a peaceful presence in the relationships you have?" My mom said it really stuck a chord with her. She's been married for about 37 years and she was explaining how after a time ... you can begin to forget to keep things as peaceful as they can be. Conflict becomes the norm, not the exception, however minor the conflict may be. My parents get along very well compared to many couples, but still, I could tell she felt there could be more peace if they were both more conscious of being a peaceful presence in the marriage.
At the end of my relationship with Derrek, I was anything but a peaceful presence. I let my own feelings of being unfulfilled bleed through to our relationship and soil it. Now that we're broken up, we actually have a more peaceful relationship. So ask yourself this question and answer it honestly. "Am I a peaceful presence, more often than not, in my relationships?" This means in love, friendship, family, and work. Do you cause unnecessary drama and unrest? If so, why? Let's try to be the most peaceful beings we can be this week in all our relationships. It's Monday ... begin now. Tell me as the week goes by ... how are you being a more peaceful presence and do you notice a change?
With Gratitude for an awakening consciousness ~L~